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How we should re-evaluate the meaning of a successful life

It’s a deep-rooted need in many of us, achieving personal success. It’s something in our DNA that perpetually propels us forward, wanting us to improve.

Along with the drive to improve and develop ourselves, is the innate need to feel safe. It’s not difficult to imagine therefore, that our drive for success combined with our need for security translates itself into a pursuit of ever-increasing wealth.

Wealth seems to express the degree of success we are achieving and provides the deeply rooted need for security and comfort. It’s hard to argue with this and to a certain extent, it is true.

Then why do so many, trying to actualize this dream, feel so drained trying, and may even feel dissatisfied when actually achieving it? Could it be that what we regard as success, i.e. material abundance, is not really a true indicator of a successful life? Could the paradigm we have been following, both individually and collectively, be flawed at the core?

There is nothing harder than changing a cultural paradigm. With this, I mean a belief system that is so deeply rooted in the collective psyche of a culture that it is taken for granted and regarded as fundamentally true. It’s something that’s not even investigated anymore and upon which we build our lives and form our reasoning and belief systems.

The notion that more wealth translates to a happier and more comfortable life is one such cultural paradigm. It’s an idea that we, collectively, have accepted to be true and worthy of pursuit. Our educational system, our economic model, our family life, are geared towards the fulfillment of the truth of this paradigm. Even churches preach the Gospel of abundance and pastors drive around in Rolls Royces and Ferraris, ‘teaching’ their flock that as long as you follow Jesus and our abundance model you will become as rich and successful as I am.

Cultures and individuals that don’t follow this paradigm are regarded as primitive, naive or impractical. To truly evaluate the truth of this wealth paradigm we need to have a look at our lives and answer a few questions honestly. Am I feeling happy? Is my life in balance? Do I feel a sense of inner peace and satisfaction? Do I spend enough quality time with my loved ones? Or, am I constantly on the run, trying to make ends meet, having no time to sit down and enjoy a few peaceful and intimate moments with my loved ones or myself. Am I in tune with nature and within myself?


In my new book, ‘When Souls Awaken’, I dedicate an entire section investigating this issue and take a closer look at what the divine consciousness proposes we do instead. It suggests we introduce a new happiness paradigm. In order to rise above our cultural belief systems and find answers, we need to rise above and transcend our ordinary day-to-day consciousness. We are presented with an entirely new way to look at what a successful life really is and how by learning to live this new way, it translates to an inner and divinely attuned state of being.

The first step is to re-evaluate our existing wealth paradigm and replace it with a new one. This new happiness paradigm consists of balancing three pillars of life, namely, love, safety/security, and spirituality. By learning to balance these three aspects of life we learn to dedicate only a certain amount of energy to the pursuit of material comforts, so that we may have enough left to invest in our need for love and spirituality.

The successful implementation of this new lifestyle translates to a higher inner state of awareness and peace, allowing a happier state of being. It re-aligns us not only with our highest spiritual purpose but also with universal principles.


We have been collectively brainwashed. This is both hard to accept and even harder to change. Fundamental change requires a radical new way of looking at things. Our subconscious mind doesn’t like change and this homeostasis, this inner tendency to keep things as they are, is what is limiting our capacity to step into higher forms of peace and happiness. The most radical of ideas is the notion that at the core we are a divine being having a human experience. Re-awakening this truth, making it a living and breathing reality in our daily lives, will provide us with the required strength to break free from the conditioning that has wrapped itself around us from our early childhood. As the great saint Vivekananda said: ‘ABHIR’. This means ‘be fearless.’ We are eternal souls, traveling from life to life. Why allow this world to limit our infinite potential. We need to break free!

This fearlessness is required to re-evaluate our collective belief systems and make the required paradigm changes. Happiness is within reach if we but allow it.

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